This was an extraordinary interview. We met two couples who shared their perspectives on marriage. Together, they had nearly 90 years of marriage experience. Despite being from different generations, their messages about marriage were very similar.
Mr. and Mrs. Westmore, retired teachers and beloved elders, demonstrated how words of affection flowed comfortably between them. It was beautiful to see their commitment to each other and their shared love for gospel music, which kept them united.
Brother Maurice and Sister Stacey, a couple married for 34 years, radiated mutual respect and love. Stacey's appreciation for Maurice's kindness and affection was evident, as was Maurice's sense of security in Stacey's presence. Their body language spoke volumes about their enduring bond.
We asked the couples various questions and gained insights into why marriage requires work, commitment, and trust. Both husbands expressed how they knew their wives were the ones for them without hesitation and showed immense gratitude towards them.
Scripture says, "He who finds a wife finds a good thing," and both husbands mentioned that they prayed for the type of wives they had.
When we spoke to the wives, their eyes sparkled with love as they talked about their husbands. They knew instantly that the men God brought before them were the right ones, not just because of kind words but through consistent, loving actions. Sister Stacey emphasized the importance of family as the foundation of any community and the pillar of their commitment.
The women also shared the importance of patience when looking for a husband and the necessity of being prepared for the role of a wife. They also discussed maintaining their health and understanding their partners well enough to know when to take measures to ensure each other's well-being. They emphasized the importance of adapting to support their husbands and themselves.
The men spoke strongly about the 50/50 aspect of marriage, particularly regarding finances. Mr. Westmore, our elder, pointed out that marriage is doomed once couples start playing with percentages on who does what. Everyone should do their part to keep the peace and sustain the marriage.
Seeing these loving couples express their love was truly inspiring. Their experiences, though different, serve as powerful examples of how to sustain a marriage and believe in its potential to thrive. Their stories remind us that we don't have to succumb to stereotypes about the scarcity of good partners. Instead, we can focus on becoming complete and healed individuals, ready to invite the right person into our lives.
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